Mama Nani
I'll be 27 this July and I'm finally at the point in my life where I'm happy with who I am. I love me, I love my life.... One thing has been bothering me lately though; I'm not sure I want children. Don't get me wrong, I love kids, I have nephews and nieces and I love them to pieces (hey, that rhymes!) but I'm not sure that I want to have a child of my own, and become Mama "Nani".
I guess that's one of the things I don't miss about being in Kenya with our families close by. Because by now the pressure would have been on me and my dear hubby to "name" our relas. For now we're safe since we don't see them often and there usually isn't enough time to really get into the subject.
I know it doesn't make me a bad person but there's a part of me that can't help feeling like I'm doing something wrong by saying I don't really think I want a child... Plus, I think if we were to have a baby, I'd want a little girl but the thought that we'd have to name her after my mum-in-law.....eh, that's a post for another day.
About mother's-in-law I will say this, you know those horror stories and stereotypes you hear about? There's no smoke without a fire.
posted by wg-k @ 21:27
18 Comments:
I wish you luck with the naming issue if you decide to get there.
I hope your parents (both sides) don't make such a big deal & turn out like mine who have a grandson & a grand daughter not named after them & have no problem whatsoever BUT when they recently suggested other names as the family is about to welcome a new one coming up in a month or so my siblings & their spouses gave them their 2cents without flinching. Hii dunia:))!
post dated birthday greetings. u know the sayin? a dilemma is ur mum in law driving of a cliff in ur new BMW!!!!
Don't worry the maternal clock will click when its the right time...and boy will u get twins!!!!!!
Hey karibu to the blogosphere mama someone to be..
Dont let Nick danganya u..biological clock is tick tick ticking!!
whats not to like about mini-me's??? Im already looking forward to mine and I'm got like five years to catch up with where u are today!
Enjoy ur birthday sana..and since ur new u should check out Nchi yetu Daily will help u catch up a lot faster with whats going on...
I never wanted a child of my own, then something happened a year or two ago and I can't stop this longing. I'm single and wouldn't by choice decide to have a child without a partner. But I've recently also thought, why not just adopt? Then the awkward bit about 'where's my father' need not come in.
But I also wonder, if I decide to get married one day, will my partner feel about my child the same way I do? If I decided to have a biological child with my partner, what would be the impact on my other child?
Also this is Kenya, I can imagine the raised eyebrows.
Anyway the long and short is, I don't think having a child or not ought to be anyone's business but your own. Also not wanting one, is your own business...
kids are the best thing that can happen to any woman but me freak giving birth horror stories.
about mother in law just ignore
Aikey, thanks for stopping by and welcoming me. Kweli, hii dunia!
Nick, i'm already addicted to all you bloggers. i find myself visiting people's blogs and wondering, "why hasn't so and so blogged since 5 hours ago??"
On another note, this mambo of telling me ati I'll have twins, you will come from Kenya to babysit and become their honorary uncle!! Later, Uncle Nick!
Deno, thanks for the tip, I've checked out NYD already. This blog thing is rather addictive. I think my hubby realises that I have now found a new obsession!:)
i have nothing against mini-me's. i'm just not ready to have my own. don't know if and/or when i'll be, and i'm cool with that.
Anonymous, thanks for getting it, you sound like an amazingly insightful person.
I wish you the best in trying to figure out which direction to go. If you do decide to adopt, then later you meet someone, if he is a stand-up guy then he will grow to love your child like his own. And if you two later have one together, i think that your adopted child will be fine.
i've had the pleasure of meeting a few people where i live who are adopted. with one guy in particular, his parents were very open about it with him. he's happy and has never wanted to find his biological parents.
i'm sure people would raise their eyebrows, but remember what you told me about having a child? apply that to the decision to adopt, it would be no one else's business but yours.
shiroh, lol. i find giving birth stories the most effective form of birth control. and i've found there is no shortage of people willing to share theirs with me at the slightest mention of the magic word, "baby." On the other hand, they say that while it's painful, it's all worth it. eh,if i ever change my mind, i'll share my insider insights! :)
The idea of having kids has never crossed my mind too. I shared this with my mum and boy did I get a telling off! I am glad I am not the only one but is there something wrong with with us? There is still time to think this over.
Just a funny update to my earlier post..as expected my parents finally but reluctantly said it's ok if the newborn is named after either one of them.
They're good peoples but we just needed to "bully" them into accepting this:)
Hi Wg-k,
May you live in interesting blog-times.
About being Mama Nani, it really is no-one's business but you and your hubby.
Eh ati pinneaple peels? EH?
Hi Wg-k,
May you live in interesting blog-times.
About being Mama Nani, it really is no-one's business but you and your hubby.
Eh ati pinneaple peels? EH?
i will be there uncle with so much love-after all i am St Nick-patron saint of kids.
yaani, u should see me in action...just saythe word and i'll be there in a hurry.
Welcome to the blog world kwanza. I hear you on the in-laws issues, and i'm not just talking parents - siblings also. And I speak from experience!
Akiey, glad to hear the naming issue was resolved with little drama!
Nick, lol at the babysitting offer. Thanks, if we ever need it, I'll let you know.
Magaidi,thanks for stopping by. I feel you on the in-law problems with siblings! I think one day I should dedicate a post to in-law troubles.
Farmgal, "new kids on the blog" lol, that's funny. Thanks for stopping by to "play" with this "new kid".
Ms. K, yaani, that pineapple juice is a plan, you wouldn't believe. My hubby gave me a strange look too the first time I told him. But after he tasted it, he was hooked! lol.
and I'm still waiting for the recipe...........
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